The share house narcissist

Under lockdown in Melbourne, the share house narcissist has free reign. He is a wife beater. Iranian. He claims not to be Muslim. He prefers Persian over Arabic. He frequently drunk drives a late model VW sedan. He has no job. He is dirty, often washing his arms, but never towelling down any of the surfaces he soaks. He cooks and washes up, but in doing so he leaves the dirty surfaces for others to clean up after him. He pushes burnt pasta, petrified mushroom matter and so on, down the drains, when he can, blocking the drains, rather than disposing of them in rubbish or garden. If anyone speaks to him, he bad mouths anyone else not present. He blames an elderly woman for smoke alarm, cleaning fails, not taking out rubbish when he is the culprit. He does not like how the parents of a young child are raising that child (one year old thriving with loving couple who work and study). Hair in the shower he blames on the obese NZ girl, who is half of a NZ couple who keep to themselves. His pet peeve is 'being cold' and so he shuts all the bathroom windows any time he is there, rather than shutting the bathroom door. This means that the bathroom is constantly wet and mouldy. When he leaves the shower, he leaves cleaning fluid on the floor of the shower. The cleaning fluid is provided by the landlord. He wanted the toilet to face the centre of the bathroom, not perpendicular to the wall it was fixed. So he broke it, several times, lifting it out of it's seating and separating the back waste pipe so it flushed directly onto the floor. He did not do that perfectly, so he had to do that several times. This was because the toilet roll holder projected onto his side when he tried to urinate into the bowl. When a plumber fixed the damage to the toilet, he got the plumber to loosen the tap on the bathroom sink so he could move it from side to side. This has made that tap impossible to use one handed. 

On 1st Aug police were called out because of arguing and fighting. Narcissist was beating his (wife?). Police arrived and spoke with both parties, and then left. 

I had heard on his first night here, Narcissist beat his wife slapping her loudly three times so she gasped. They had cooked a crispy skin salmon. She had been the one to keep the skin on the burner. She had cooked the chunky fish well, but clearly it had not cooked through. I was downstairs waiting for a delivery. His room is upstairs and one can clearly hear through the doors, but the walls are well sound proofed. He complained the salmon was not cooked through. She said it was ok, and some peoples had it that way. He said "You are not hearing me." He said that three times. Then he apparently slapped her three times in quick succession. I heard her gasp. I have not heard any subsequent incidents, but am now aware police were called on the 1st of August and it is routine that those near his room overhear him bashing her regularly. 

20th August 2020

following an email to the estate agent on the behaviour of the narcissist, I had promised not to provoke him. The narcissist took my clothes out of the washing machine and left them in my basket. It was first light outside and I had gone down to do the same job. I had just missed doing it. Narcissist had his load going. I was also using the kitchen to heat up some soup. Narcissist had not used the kitchen sink. while I was heating the soup, Narcissist walked behind me, washed his arms and left. He had had no purpose in being there. A few moments before, after I had urinated in the bathroom, he went to go into the bathroom and shut the window after I left. He had used the opportunity to wash his arms then. His washing his arms means he soaks all the surfaces around him. I believe he had gone downstairs to the kitchen to make sure I did not sabotage his washing by turning off the machine, as he had done to me in the past. Of course, when I remove clothes from the washing machine to use it, I hang them up. No charge. One of the towels I had washed was solely so I could towel down after Narcissist had used the shower or bathroom. 

Kitchen Sink Gristle from Narc

I put gristle in can 

10:37 in the evening. Police knock on my door to my bedroom in share accommodation. They want to see my ID.

Aug 21st

I'm expecting a plumber who does not show. Calls at 2pm to reschedule for Monday. Needs me to take away his guilt by assuring him there is unlikely to be an emergency. Narcissist is quiet. I got up at 6am to listen to NYY lose. I go to pee, and after I close the door, Narcissist is looking to use the bathroom. We don't talk. Later in the afternoon, I let the downstairs lady know that the plumber isn't coming by. Narcissist is preparing to drive, drunk. He has left his car outside while he showers. He leaves a mess as always. Closed windows. Bathroom floor and surfaces soaking wet. Toilet bowl is dirty. Bath met soaking wet. 

Aug 22nd

Saturday. 7:40 am. Narc has closed shut the bathroom windows and left all the bathroom surfaces wet. 

9:30 am Narc has gone to shower, leaving all surfaces wet and bath met soaked on the floor. All windows shut again. 

Plumber shows 1pm and installs new shower head, unblocks drains, tightens loose tap. 

Aug 23rd

Narcissist fully closes windows overnight. 

730 PM, Narcissist has pushed shower head up, unnecessarily, meaning the joins weaken for next users. The room is soaked. The bath mat squishes water if one steps on it. The bench tops are soaked, and not towelled down. Windows, which had been ajar are fully closed. 

Shower head pushed up

counter top soaked

Bath mat soaked and squishy

floor with water

At times during the day, the fire alarm will squawk every twenty seconds for maybe an hour. It is a piercing sound and I feel it affecting my hearing, long term. Tonight at about 10:50pm it went off for a full minute. I don't know why. 

At 11:20 pm, Narcissist used the bathroom to brush his teeth. He had to leave a puddle on the floor and soak the counter doing so. . 

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Aug 24th

Left enormous turd in toilet. Turd would not flush. Took several hours to get turd flushed. Did not clean up after showering. Floor was wet. Counters were wet. 

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Aug 25th

12:20 afternoon, Shut windows, left counters smeared with oily substance. Floor soaked. The rest of the day, no sign of Narcissist throughout the house. But the bathroom was a mess and stayed that way until I cleaned it up at 11pm. When I showered, open the windows, towelled down the surfaces. 

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Aug 26th

5 am, the windows were still open the room was 'clean'

2 pm, he is back, having left the floor and counters a mess. The shower head is adjusted so it needs to be twisted to use. The windows are shut.

9pm. I clean up for Narcissist, towelling down surfaces etc. He decides he must flush the toilet next door to the shower, while I'm in the shower. I'm not two minutes in the shower. The result is water in the shower becomes very hot, and after being adjusted, very cold. 

27th

6:30 am clean bathroom, windows ajar. 

9 am Narcissist has left all the surfaces wet and shut the windows. 

9 pm Narcissist has left all the surfaces wet, and pushed a bog roll paper cover to the side of the toilet rather than putting it in the bin in the same room. 

28th

4am clean bathroom, but for paper next to toilet I can't reach. 

7am Narcissist has left all the surfaces wet. 

6pm Narcissist in using the kitchen soaked the counter tops in washing up and washing his arms. He does not leave the towelling to dry, but scrunched up. Where he used the stove top is a grease and oil stain. 

29th

Narcissist has along with his normal activity, left underpants and a bog roll next to the toilet. I used an arm extension to reach it. He also lowered the shower head unnecessarily. Soaked the floor and counter tops and closed the windows so nothing dries. 

30th

10 am

Narcissist leaves mess in bathroom. I see in kitchen he still has not cleaned his mess from the other day. 

Reports from our share house guy that works in security that Narcissist is continually beating up his wife.